I’m Cori and I blog over at La Vie Petite about personal style, my three littles, and dressing my ever expanding baby bump.
I also have my own little indie clothing line Corilynn, which I spend a less than healthy amount of time on as well, and I love it.
I’m so glad Natalie asked me to post on here for her while she’s away on her honeymoon. Especially since she asked me to write about my marriage, which is pretty much my favorite topic in the world.
(And no, I’m not being sarcastic)
Mr and I met in college. He stopped by my apartment one night with one of his roommates, and when I opened the door and saw him for the first time, I knew I was going to marry him right then. I swear there was a glow around him, and I just knew. (Disclaimer: I never believed in that kind of thing before it happened to me.) I told my roommate later that night, and she kind of rolled her eyes and said “yeah, okay.” Well, ha!
Anyways, imagine my delight when I later discovered that he was also possibly the most amazing person I had ever met. To say that I fell madly in love almost immediately after meeting him would be an understatement, but it took 6 months before he asked me out on the date. I was shamefully shy and non-aggressive when it came to dating back then. We became really good friends, (which is really the best way to get to know someone) and it wasn’t until a well-meaning roommate let it slip that I had a huge crush on him, that Mr finally got a clue and asked me out. A week later he told me he told me he wanted to marry me, and 6 months later he did.
We were married on August 22, 2003 in Oakland, California, and had a beautiful reception later that evening in Sacramento where I’m from. I still maintain that our wedding day was the funnest day of my life. Which was exactly the way I wanted it. A big beautiful party with all the people I love most in the world, dancing around and celebrating our marriage with us.
We spent our honeymoon in Maui, staying in a beautiful little resort right off the ocean. It had an outdoor restaurant under a gazebo that looked out on the water and we had breakfast there nearly every morning. My favorite memory from our honeymoon was waking up before sunrise one morning and walking along the beach as the sun came up.
Obviously, a lot has changed in the last nine years. We’ve been through college (twice), lived in 6 different states and added three (almost four!) littles to our family, but I’m still crazy about that guy. When Natalie asked me to give a little piece of wisdom about marriage, the first thing that came to mind was to pick the right person. I haven’t done everything right in my life, but I picked the right spouse. Someone I admire, who’s interesting, who works hard, who’s brilliant and who’s kind to me. Pick the right spouse and then don’t forget to be the person they picked. Don’t forget who you are, let yourself go, or stop trying just because your married. There’s no shame in putting on some lipstick before you see him at the end of the day. Be the kind of person you would want to come home to. Good marriages take time, effort, patience and love every. single. day. But there’s nothing you can invest in that will give you a better return.
