I’m in the middle of a serious wardrobe funk right now. I go in my mess of a closet every day, and I have no idea what I feel like wearing. Mr. keeps telling me to go get some new clothes, but honestly I don’t know what I would even buy right now. This is what happens when you have a baby. You take a hiatus from normal clothing for a year (sometimes more) and when you emerge on the other side you have no idea what the heck you even like to wear any more, let alone what fits now. At least that’s what happens to me. Plus, my body is weird right now. And by weird I mean, I have a chest. I have no idea what to do with an actual chest. I’m so used to being a flatty. And I’m sure I just look normal, but to me I look busty and I don’t know what to do with a busty Cori.
Please tell me I’m not the only human being who experiences this post-partum awkwardness. You’d think after 4 babies I’d have it down. But really I don’t.
Also, I’m thinking about cutting my hair. Like chop-chop. I’ve had it long for years, and I’m feeling like something fresh might be in order…
What do you think?
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Pants: Zara.
Blouse: Old Navy.
Sequin Top: J Crew. (love this one.)
Shoes: Ruche.
Bag: Michael Kors.
Necklace: c/o Lisa Leonard.
Do NOT cut that hair…I went through the same thing after babies 1 and 2, and immediately regretted that it would take me as long as it did to get it back long again. You are gorgeous I am sure with it any length, but don’t want you to experience the regret!
With the clothes funk, pick one “current” thing you wanted to wear while prego but couldn’t?
adore the sparkly blouse!
kw ladies in navy
Love that sparkly top! xxx
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I feel like every time I cut my hair I regret it too. With that said, it’s just hair. It always grows back and you would look beautiful no matter what.
As far as your clothing situation. I am 6 months post partum and my wardrobe consist of v-necks (for breastfeeding) in EVERY color you can think of. I am ready to beef up my selection too! Head on over to Loft.com, you know she never lets you down.
Post-baby wardrobe problems: yes, both times! I nursed each baby for a year, so it was a year of separates instead of the dresses I really wanted to wear. That restriction along with waistline all over the place, and all the other weird re-adjustments, left me very blank. So have some fun with it and find out where you will land this time!
Hair: if you feel like cutting it, just do it! It will grow back if you’re unsure of the look, and you might just love it shorter. Your face can “take” shorter hair, and it might be fun for you to work with new proportions. GOOD LUCK!!!
If that is YOUR wardrobe funk..you do NOT want to see what I am wearing today. hahahah
Love your blog.
xoxo,
Sierra
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Don’t cut your hair! I made that mistake and I hated it..thought I needed something fresh and the haircut wasn’t what I needed. How about a new color or highlights? Ombre? The clothes after baby is an issue, I think we all go through it (hopeful, right?!) Try some all black with pops of color or blousy tops and skinny jeans that you can wear unbuttoned (or even maternity ones?) By the way…you look great!
I experienced this post-partum awkwardness the worst after my 4th! Not fun. That’s actually the whole reason I started blogging my outfits….to get me out of the rut!
I know that when everything in my life is not quite right and I’m feeling off, my hair being long is the only thing that brings me comfort. For whatever reason. But, your hair is so long, you could cut off quite a bit and it would still be long.
I’m not sure you should do anything drastic right now if you are anything like me when it comes to your hair. But, if you do, I’m sure it will look great because you are so darn pretty. And it will take you less time…if time savings is what you are looking for.
Well, that’s the cutest “funk” I’ve ever seen! I have no advice to offer on the baby-body issue (which btw, I think you look fabulous!), BUT when it comes to short hair, I can testify that it’s a lot of work! At least it was for me! I will NEVER cut my hair short again!
I haven’t have any kids but I feel just like you. I feel like that because I’ve lost 45 pounds over the last year and I am rediscovering my style since I can now shop at stores again that I couldn’t for so long.
I think your hair is beautiful. Id kill to have long thick hair like yours. There is something whole heartily “woman” about having long hair.
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Your chest is awesome. I can tell you that, because we’re friends. Try to embrace it, because before long, it will be gone, and you will be a wall like me again. I remember after Tristan feeling the same way though. Natali had to go shopping with me, to teach me how to manipulate my clothes around the boobs. You need a lesson from your sister, or her closet, maybe? :) I love your hair, but, it does grow back. I think you could go like Tashi’s length, maybe? She’s cute with it, you’d be cute too. Sorry y take you’re in a funk. I wish we could go out with the girls. That would help. It takes me like a year to snap out of post-baby-ness. Once again, that’s why I’m done. Love you, miss you. You’re gorgeous.
You should cut your hair! Not necessarily super short, but maybe up to a few inches below your shoulders? It would be refreshing without losing all the ease of long hair (you can still curl it, throw it back in a ponytail, braid it, etc.).
Your shoes, by the way, are SO cute!!
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I am completely in the same boat! I had my little one just a month before you had Ava, and I chopped my hair! I miss the length a little, but it’s so much easier to have it out of my way. I feel you on the clothing rut too… I’m almost back to my pre-preggers weight but things still don’t fit.. I literally think my hips stretched!! You are an inspiration to my wardrobe, thanks for a great blog!
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i love your hair, i am a long hair girl though!
if you feel like cutting your hair, then go for it! all of these people who act like haircuts are a crime are forgetting a basic truth in life: IT GROWS BACK. also, long hair is not the only acceptable hair style in the world. do what makes you happy.
Nothing helps me shake a funk like a cute new haircut! I had this weird phobia that short hair made my face look round, when I finally cut it to my chin a few years ago, I was pretty obsessed with it. Of course you miss the long hair stuff like big curls, etc. but it’s so fun. Long hair is a burden. I have it at shoulder length right now, but I totally want to cut it again. I go from short to long alllll the time. And clothes funk after baby, YES. I have never been a big girl on top either. It made me feel like I looked funny. And as you know there are already *extra* layers to go through for us anyway. When you are a layer freak, nursing is a nightmare. you can’t layer. and you feel funny looking because you can’t.
I super duper love this outfit!!!! Gorgeous as always.
You do NOT look like you gave birth to four babies – you look so great! Sparkles for the day, I’m diggin’ it! :)
As far as the chop chop goes I think a chic long bob would be great on your face!! do it!!
Haha! Love how real this post is. I look forward to being busty also b/c I too am a flatty. :)
I love your long hair :) And g-d knows what’ll happen to me if I have kids because I’ve never been lacking in the chest department haha
I think you look fantastic in everything you wear! And I am totally jealous of your beautiful hair, but I say cut it if you want to, because a fresh haircut can make you feel so much more revived. :)
I changed my entire look post partum, normally a long dark haired girl to being short red head. It was fun while it lasted but that’s the thing it never does last and you end up growing it long again anyways…or so I have found to be the case. I say experiment with your clothes and blog all the while I would love to see what you come up with!
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I am COMPLETELY with you on the post-partum wardrobe funk! I just had my thrid (well, he’s 5 months, ha!) and I feel like I wear one outfit over and over. I could’ve said the exact thing you wrote. And I also am not used to being “busty,” as goes along with breastfeeding. And as a matter of fact, I don’t like it! And it makes it hard to dress myself, since my body is FAR from the one I used to have!
And as far as cutting your hair, I say GO FOR IT! I cut mine a few weeks ago, and it’s actually the one thing that has made me pull myself together! Love your blog and wish you continued success and happiness!
I just chopped 11 inches off my hair and love it! I feel so liberated! :)
you exactly describe how I feel after I have a baby. I usually feel that way for the first 9 months after they are born. Things just fit weird! But you look amazing! and adorabel in everything you post. I love you hair long…but short hair is cute too.
This outfit is fabulous!
Sheree
The Hartungs Blog
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I am with you sista! After having my second baby some of my blouses no longer fit because I was so busty I am truly flat like Kate Hudson flat and now nursing I don’t know where to stick these things. Postpartum I also feel like my shoulders got wider….is that even possible?!
Anyway I am also in a hair rut, my hair is falling out by the chunks and I just want to chop it off. But that being said I love my long hair but I do always tell myself my hair will grow back. Your hair a beautiful.
Cheers,
I’m sure at every stage it is an adjustment to learn how to dress you body type. This is my 1st pregnancy and I’m definitely adjusting to having some shape and I don’t really know how to dress my bump still. However, you look FAB!! I think your hair is beautiful, but I understand wanting a change. That is where I experiment sometimes…I say go short for awhile and maybe some highlights :)
I love your hair long!
-Hannah
After 4 babies I completely feel this post, like in my bones feel it. Every time I go through that awkward phase of not knowing what to wear as the bump grows and then once it is beyond a bump and more like a basketball and a half, I feel huge and ungainly and not-at-all attractive. Once the baby is here (oh happy day!) I feel squishy and unsure of how to dress, plus the whole nursing and not wearing too many layers or buttons or dresses, etc. Plus, my tastes and styles have changed in the last year and I have not bought any normal clothes in a year and what do I even want to wear? It is a crazy cycle and I went through it every time. Now that my littlest is almost 4 (!), I realize that it seems to just happen every other year, where I get tired of my clothes and am not sure what style I really own or how I want to dress myself. I seem to have to reinvent my look every other year anyway so maybe it is inevitable, baby or not.
About your hair though, I think it is gorgeous but I understand the desire. Go for it, it is only hair and it will always grow. Plus I think you would look fabulous with something fun and short!
Post-baby body dressing is so hard! I had diastasis recti (separation of the stomach muscles) for nearly two years. It’s healed now, for finally, but it was so hard to work out and not have anything happen. My stomach got worse for a little while. I finally discovered the issue and am working to get my stomach somewhat flat again. I also get so busty while nursing that they don’t actually make my bra size. I’m back down to a D cup. Even though it’s not as bad for you; figuring out how clothes fit your body after baby is hard. No matter what. You’re used to your body for so many years and it changes. I think it changes a little w/ every pregnancy. Good luck, hope you get out of your funk soon!
My friend is having the exact same problem with her wardrobe. I always tell her it’s in her head because things reall do look good on her! I can’t believe you just had a baby. You look great! I LOVE the idea of short hair. Don’t get me wrong, your hair is beautiful long, but I rock the graduated bob haircut and it’s so easy to maintain! Not to mention nice and cool for the summer!
following your great blog right away!!!
kisses
Always loved your skirts, but just found your blog. I have to say after all 3 babies I felt the same way. I hated the way clothes fit, and nothing in my closet appealed to me. It took many months to get past it. As for your hair – it is beautiful, but a good chop just might do your baby blues body some good. :) Best to you!
You look great! I mean AMAZING after having four kiddos! I just had mine and hate that I don’t fit into my regular clothes. It takes a while but I dislike this stage of yhe game
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I don’t have children. Hubby and I are at the early steps of trying to get pregnant. As a result, I find myself reading all things related to babies, from tips on how to conceive, believe it or not, to postpartum topics. And upon reading your blog above and also your other one about your weight loss after baby — I felt hopeful and not as afraid as I’ve always been about how to deal with losing the pregnancy weight. I think that you look amazing…but if you want a change, the truth is that a haircut it’s sometimes the cheapest and the best way to obtain that change. I think your hair is beautiful but if you cut it…it’ll grow back. I used to be very attached to my hair length …I’m not as attached to it anymore because it always grows back. Thank you for posting your opinions and experiences on postpartum — it really gives me so much hope…and I can’t wait to experience motherhood.