Skirt: Asos. Sweater: Target. Necklace: J Crew (similar) Shoes: Enzo Angiolini. Bag: Ivanka Trump. (similar) Watch: Michael Kors. Pave Ring: TJMaxx. (similar.) Sunglasses: H&M (these are amazing.)
This skirt is the physical embodiment of my having completely overcome the insecurities of my earlier life. I mean it’s a (faux) leather skirt, people. Can you say, WI-LD? ;-) I would never have had the guts to wear something like this a few years ago. But now, I wear what I like and I feel just fine in it; I don’t even get self-conscious any more. Is this the gift age brings you? Well then, Happy Birthday to me… (on Monday.)
But seriously, I think one of the very best things I’ve learned in the last few years, especially through all the hard stuff, is how little it matters what other people think of you, and how much it matters what you think of yourself.
So here are my top 3 pieces of advice/practices for becoming more secure:
1. do the things you want to do, wear what you want to wear even if it scares you. The more you practice pushing your fears, the less they scare you.
2. Be true to you. All day, everyday. It’s a lot easier to be sure when you’re being authentic.
3. Don’t give a rats behind about petty people or what they may or may not be saying/thinking about you. Every time you feel hurt by some petty person or thing, IRL or online, repeat this to yourself:
“I don’t care what you think about me, I don’t think about you at all.” -Coco Chanel.
Happy Friday Everyone! Go get ’em.
